Connection therapy
The most common problem in relationships is a breakdown in communication - the connection is lost and then people think they married the wrong person.
In connection therapy the couple learns about the four phases in a relationship, namely:
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the in-love phase - where no problems are experienced;
- the power struggle phase - during which unfulfilled needs from childhood surface, conflict arises and couples don't know how to solve it;
- the coping phase - during which each partner develops a way to cope with the unbearable, e.g. work to escape from the relationship; and
- the conscious mature relationship phase - which can be achieved with the help of a therapist.
Couples learn about the imago principle, which explains why we are magnetically attracted to a certain person and we fall in love. It also explains why we experience problems with each other during the power struggle. Couples learn that the seemingly "wrong" partner is actually their perfect match and their challenge for personal growth.
Couples are guided in the principles on which a relationship is based. They learn communication skills which enable them to re-establish a real emotional connection. They learn to listen with their hearts, not their minds, and to really understand their partner's world. They learn to stop criticising or manipulating, but instead to ask directly for what they want.
They learn that conflict is a friend - it is growth trying to happen - and if handled constructively it leads to a conscious mature relationship. Couples learn that they are each other's therapist in the process of healing their childhood wounds. They are guided in how to fulfil this role. They learn about the five languages of love and how to express love in the most meaningful way towards their partner.
Note: We are registered with all medical aids.
